Gossip: The Heart of the Matter

Filed under Your Friendships Your Heart on Nov 05 12 by

It’s glamorized, televised, printed, and spread: it’s gossip! It is just crazy how over the years, gossip has become this accepted norm. Think about it: we have magazines which are nothing more than glorified middle school girl’s bathroom chatter in printed form. Oh and don’t forget the blogs, radio shows, and television shows completely devoted to discussing the lives of others. You may be thinking, “what’s so wrong with gossiping a little?” Consider how you feel when you are on the talked-about and lied-about side of gossip. Even more importantly, the lover of our soul HATES gossip. Gossip has never been, will never be, and is not now acceptable for God’s daughters to engage in. We are made new in Christ. That woman who gossips and knows everything about everyone is no longer who you are; you have been given a new identity in Christ.

The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart. – Luke 6:45

The issue with gossip is not just about trying to contain word vomit or simply shutting—it goes deeper than that. Here’s the thing about our mouths: they just tell on our hearts. Whatever comes out of our mouths measures the condition of our hearts. How is your mouth telling on you? When you discuss others, what language do you use? The fact of the matter is that when we find the need to constantly talk about others, we reveal that something in our heart is out of line. And oh how we try it mask it with good intentions! If we were really that concerned about people, we shouldn’t want to tell every one of their shortcomings; rather, we should want to take it to the feet of Jesus and wage war on their behalf through prayer. How has your mouth been telling on your heart?

Ladies, it is high time that we get real honest with ourselves. Why are we so wrapped up in everyone’s business, and why do we feel the need to go tell everyone the latest “juice”? As an ex-gossiper, I can be honest with you when I say that gossiping about someone made me feel better. Sharing who slept with who and what girl was caught sneaking out of the men’s dorm late at night gave me a sense of, “well at least I’m not doing that”. It’s self-righteous, it’s pathetic and it’s just so NOT okay. I have gossiped about others and I have been gossiped about, and neither of those places are good places to be. Let’s quit being so wrapped up in the shortcomings and downfalls of others, and get wrapped up and obsessed with Jesus! Whether you gossip everyday, every week, or once a month, it’s time to put an end to it. What comes out of our mouths truly reveals the condition of our hearts.


P.S – Check out my blog www.bevirtue.com for a continuation of this series on gossip!

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