Locked out of Heaven? Combatting Our Culture’s View of Sexuality

Filed under Relationships Your Heart on Nov 06 12 by

I don’t know about you, but I recall numerous occasions as a single girl where I wondered if God was holding out on me. I wanted a marriage and a family. I wanted a boyfriend. I wanted to be able to fulfill the sexual desires that lingered in my mind. (Yes ladies, we can admit that we have those desires too. Let’s stop pretending like it’s only a “guy thing.”) I wanted to be able to experience things that other people were experiencing—and something that it seemed like everyone around me was experiencing was sex.

Everywhere I turned I was bombarded with words, images, advertisements, song lyrics, movies, and television shows that appeared to be “normal life.” That “normal life” spelled out sexual fulfillment as the key to satisfaction and pleasure. I also vividly remember having a conversation one evening with a couple of girlfriends (who are followers of Jesus) in which they said to me, “You are just too uptight Shannon. You really need to get laid.” What?!

Sadly, this is the atmosphere we live in. A quick look into mainstream media will reveal the focus of our gaze as a culture. Today, on the top 10 song list of iTunes you will quickly be exposed to these lyrics:

Never had much faith in love or miracles
Never wanna put my heart on deny
But swimming in your world is something spiritual
I’m born again every time you spend the night
Cause your sex takes me to paradise
Yeah your sex takes me to paradise
And it shows, yeah, yeah, yeah
Cause you make feel like, I’ve been locked out of heaven
For too long, for too long
Yeah you make feel like, I’ve been locked out of heaven
For too long, for too long
– Bruno Mars “Locked out of Heaven”

As well as:

Trying to tell you no, but my body keeps on telling you yes
Trying to tell you stop, but your lipstick got me so out of breath
I’d be waking up, in the morning probably hating myself
And I’d be waking up, feeling satisfied but guilty as hell
-Maroon 5 “One More Night”

We are also quickly exposed to veiled lyrics upon turning on any popular radio station that can imprint themselves on our minds without us even realizing what we are saying such as these popular lyrics of Flo Rida:

Can you blow my whistle baby, whistle baby, Let me know
Girl I’m gonna show you how to do it, And we start real slow
You just put your lips together, And you come real close
Can you blow my whistle baby, whistle baby
Here we go

These examples could go on and on, but my purpose in this article is not to present a rigid and legalistic position that mainstream music and media should be avoided at all costs. My purpose is this: To point us to a greater gift than our secular culture could ever dream of. This gift is one that when pursued, given, and received in the way that God intended will give us greater pleasure and joy than we could ever dream of. Sexuality is a gift that is meant to make two people into one. It is a gift that is meant to create a bond that sustains and propels married men and women forward in their mission to glorify God above all else.

God is not holding out on you, my friend. God is protecting you from the weapons of this world of sinfulness and from the heartbreak and consequences that pursuing this gift apart from Him will create in your life. God is preparing you to experience this pleasure fully and with the joy that He intended.

My prayer is that you will see this modern, generic brand of sexuality as what it is; a cheap imitation that will leave you full of nothing but regret, emptiness, and tough consequences. My prayer is that you will walk with me through these next few articles with an open heart and a desire to pursue sex and intimacy in the way that God intended and that in doing so, you will be filled with the deepest of joy.

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Shannon Tyson
Shannon is a relationships blogger for The You Are Project, discussing topics surrounding the issues of dating and marriage. Through spending many years working in ministry geared toward young girls and women and through the path the Lord has led her down personally, she has developed a passion to encourage women to date and pursue marriage the way that God intended. Follow her thoughts here monthly!