I remember it vividly. I yearned, ached, and felt completely, humanly alone. That is how my heart felt before I was married. I deeply desired honest, real companionship. But was I forgetting about the relationships I already had?
We were not meant to sit around and worry about who, what, when, where, why, and how the “man of our dreams” was going to walk into our lives.
God created us to be relational creatures; He truly did. With Adam already created, the important addition of Eve set the blueprint for what our hearts would want for the rest of our lives. We want someone there. But we are not meant to sit around and worry about who, what, when, where, why, and how the man of our dreams is going to walk into our lives. Until (and even when) “the one” comes along, we need to look at the other relationships God has surrounded us with.
God has a plan for your life, and it doesn’t involve sitting around doing your nails until Prince Charming charmingly walks into your life.
If you sat down, right now, and made of list of all the people that you care about, even the ones on Facebook that you consistently check on (and therefore care about even just a little), you would probably have quite the list. I would too. I once tried to pray during an hour-long yoga session—starting with my immediate family and working up to my first cousins—and I ran out of time. God is a relational god. He loves us, and He loves surrounding us with people to love. But we need to stop wasting time looking for “the one” that’s not there yet! If he’s coming, then great! God will introduce us. If not, that’s great too. We have a lot to do right now and tons of other people to love! God has a plan for your life, and it doesn’t involve sitting around doing your nails until Prince Charming charmingly walks into your life.
Even though I am married, my heart is not fulfilled in that relationship, and that is as it should be. I am meant to reach up to God, and then to reach out and extend His love to others. That will never stop being my job here. As a human, there is always one more thing that we believe will fill up that empty spot in our lives—whether that thing is “Mr Right,” a better job, or something else that we hope for. If fulfillment is what you are looking for in a guy, he’s fortunate that he hasn’t found you yet. I don’t say that to sound harsh! But the truth is that if I project everything I need in my life onto a guy, even a wonderful man like my husband, he is doomed to fail. This is true because he is not My God. “My God will supply all my needs,” say Philippians 4:9, not “my man.”
Think of your greatest desire, and know that God is saying, “Dear Child—dream bigger.”
I am being constantly reminded of how God has an amazing plan for each of our lives. We have these great and grand desires for our lives, but they most often are not as great and grand as the ones God has for us. We were put here for a purpose, not for a person. It’s not getting what I want when I want it, but God has perfect timing, even when I’m impatient. The next time you are yearning for companionship, first think of the amazing love that God has put in your life at the moment. Next, think of your greatest desire, and know that God is saying, “Dear Child—dream bigger.” There are stunning things that He has planned for you, and there’s no time to sit around and daydream about some rom-com, cardboard cut-out you have pictured in your head—it’s going to be so much better than that!